How to stop feeling down

Feeling down

The fast changing nature of emotions could in few seconds turn moments of happiness to moments of deep sadness. How many times you were feeling good then in less than
a minute you felt down?

In my article covering Mood swings I mentioned many of the reasons behind these fast swings in the mood and in this article I am going to continue the talk about such reasons.

The accumulation effect

One of the very powerful reasons that can force you to feel down is the accumulated effect of two or more unresolved issues.

If you were feeling good then in less than one minute you received some information about potential problems your mood will swing.

Suppose that you woke up feeling good and as soon you got out of your bed you remembered that you have an appointment after 20 minutes, this alone won’t make you feel bad but it will establish the base for which a pile of annoying emotions could be built upon.

Suppose that few moments later you found that the shirt you intend to wear was stained. At this moment you may feel very stressed and thus become vulnerable to wild mode swings.

In my book, The ultimate guide to getting over depression i explained how tiny events can result in a bad mood or even in depression if not dealt with properly.

You don’t have to lose your money in the stock market in order to feel bad because at this state you are in any tiny bit of bad news will spoil your whole day. Consequently, small problems alone never succeed in changing our moods, however, it’s their combined effect that can completely alter our mood.

How to stop feeling down

The best way to deal with this accumulated effect is to never allow the pile to be constructed in the first place. Usually when people face an unsolved problem they just move on without trying to deal with it because of thinking that it doesn’t cause them much pain but few moments later when another issue appears they start to feel bad and even depressed.

The advice I have for you is to try to deal with all of these small issues as soon as you encounter them. Don’t underestimate their effect because if they accumulated together they can make you feel really bad.
The major bad moods you experience may be the result of the accumulation of few unresolved issues of smaller size. I know that some issues can't be solved at the same time they are encountered but you must at least tackle the ones that can be solved.

You can also delay the process of encountering new information until you feel that you can handle more surprising news. For example, if you were waiting for a mail from the person who interviewed you that will determine whether you will work form for him or not then you should only check your mail when you feel like being able to tolerate more new events. If you were stressed or if were already feeling a little down then its better to delay checking your mail until your mood returns back to its normal levels.